10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

0 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).

Problem: If you think you can’t be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car or computer setup, you’ll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied — we want more.

Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn’t have to be some state that we want to get to eventually — it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.
2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).

Problem: We’ll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.

Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself — what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.

3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.

Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful — in different ways.

Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself — you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you — there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldn’t even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.

4. I am a miserable failure — I can’t seem to do anything right.

Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them — and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.

Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them — keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you’ve accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It’s an incredibly positive feeling.

5. I’m going to beat so-and-so no matter what — I’m better than him. And there’s no way I’ll help him succeed — he might beat me.

Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers can’t also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog.

Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.

6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?

Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.

Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition — but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don’t let it hold you back. Don’t dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger, in disguise.

7. You can’t do anything right! Why can’t you be like ____ ?

Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, we’d be robots. Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.

Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.

8. Your work sucks. It’s super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.

Problem: I’ve actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, let’s look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It’s also not a good way to make friends.

Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way — it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. That’s a good thing.

9. Insulting People Back

Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences — for both of you.

Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Don’t let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more — why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them — and make you feel better about yourself in the process.

10. I don’t think I can do this — I don’t have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.

Problem: If you don’t think you can do something, you probably won’t. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it — motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for “some other time”, you’ll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.

Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don’t need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.

THE DREAM IS NOT WHAT YOU SEE IN SLEEP

THE DREAM IS NOT WHAT YOU SEE IN SLEEP...... DREAM IS WHICH DOES NOT LET YOU SLEEP. - DR. ABDUL KALAM



NO MAN IS RICH ENOUGH TO BUY HIS PAST - - OSCAR

WINNING DOESN'T ALWAYS MEAN BEING FIRST,.....
WINNING MEANS YOU'RE DOING BETTER THAN YOU'VE DONE BEFORE - BONNIE

THREE SENTENCES FOR GETTING SUCCESS


A) KNOW MORE THAN OTHER
B) WORK MORE THAN OTHER
C) EXPECT LESS THAN OTHER - WILLIAM SHAKESPEAR


LOVE YOUR JOB BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY
BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN IT STOPS LOVING YOU - DR. ABDUL KALAM


IF SOMEONE FEELS THAT THEY HAD NEVER MADE A MISTAKE IN THEIR LIFE,
THEN IT MEANS THEY HAD NEVER TRIED A NEW THING IN THEIR LIFE - ALBERT EINSTEIN


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Water Therapy Drink six [6] glasses of water (1.5 liter) everyday

Drink six [6] glasses of water (1.5 liter) everyday and avoid medicine, tablets, injections, diagnosis, doctor fees etc. You can never believe before practicing. Here is the list of diseases that can be cured by this water therapy:

1. Head Ache
2. Blood Pressure / Hypertension
3. Anemia (Blood shortage)
4. Rheumatism (Pain in joints/muscles)
5. General Paralysis
6. Obesity (Fatness)
7. Arthritis
8. Sinusitis
9. Tachycardia
10.Giddiness
11 Cough
12.Asthma
13.Bronchitis
14.Pulmonary Tuberculosis
15.Meningitis
16.Kidney Stones
17.Urogenital Diseases
18.Hyper acidity
19.Gastro – entities
20.Dysentery
21.Rectal Piodapse
22.Constipation
23.Hostorthobics
24.Diabetes
25.Eye diseases
26.Ophthalmic Hemorrhage & Ophthalmic (Reddish eye)
27.Irregular Menstruation
28.Leukemia
29.Uterus Cancer
30.Breast Cancer
31.Laryngitis

HOW TO DO THIS WATER THERAPY?

1. Early morning, after you get up from bed, (without even brushing your teeth) drink 1.50 litters of water i.e. 5 to 6 glasses. You may wash your face thereafter.
2. Here it is very essential to note that nothing else, neither drinks nor solid food of any sort should be taken within 1 hr. before and after drinking these 1.5 litters of water.
3. It is also to be strictly observed that no alcoholic drinks shall be taken the previous night.
4. If required, boiled and filtered water may be used for this purpose.
Is it possible to drink 1.50 litters of water at one time? This is a BIG QUESTION? To begin with, one may find it difficult to drink 1.50 litters of water at one time, but one will get used to it gradually. Initially, while practicing you may drink four glasses first and then the balance two glasses after a gap of 2 minutes. Initially you may find the necessity to urinate 2-3 times within an hour, but it will become normal after quite some time.

By research and experience, the following diseases are observed to be cured with this therapy within the indicated days as below:
Constipation -- 1 day
Acidity -- 2 days.
Diabetes -- 7 days.
Cancer -- 4 weeks
Pulmonary TB -- 3 months
BP & Hypertension -- 4 weeks

NOTE:
It is advised that persons suffering from Arthritis or Rheumatism should practice this therapy thrice a day i.e .morning, mid day and night, 1 hour before breakfast, lunch and dinner for one week and twice a day subsequently until the disease disappears.

HOW DOES PURE WATER ACT ?
Consuming ordinary drinking water by the right method purifies human body.
It renders the colon more effective by forming new fresh blood, known in medical terms as Haematopaises. That the mucosal folds of the colon and intestines are activated by this method, is an undisputed fact, just as the theory that new fresh blood is produced by the mucosal fold. If the colon is cleansed then the nutrients of the food taken several times a day will be absorbed and by the action of the mucosal folds they are turned into fresh blood. The blood is all-important in curing ailments and restoring health and for this water should be consumed in a regular pattern.

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Gr8 learning..........“Change our vision”

There was a millionaire who was bothered by severe eye pain. He consulted so many physicians and was getting his treatment done. He did not stop consulting galaxy of medical experts; he consumed heavy loads of drugs and underwent hundreds of injections.



But the ache persisted with great vigour than before. At last a monk who has supposed to be an expert in treating such patients was called for by the millionaire. The monk understood his problem and said that for sometime he should concentrate only on green colours and not to fall his eyes on any other colours.

The millionaire got together a group of painters and purchased barrels of green color and directed that every object his eye was likely to fall to be painted in green colour just as the monk had directed.

When the monk came to visit him after few days, the millionaire's servants ran with buckets of green paints and poured on him since he was in red dress, lest their master not see any other colour and his eye ache would come back.

Hearing this monk laughed said "If only you had purchased a pair of green spectacles, worth just a few rupees, you could have saved these walls and trees and pots and all other articles and also could have saved a large share of his fortune.

Our Learning from the Story

You cannot paint the world green." Let us change our vision and the world will appear accordingly. It is not correct to shape the world, let us shape ourselves first.

Lets change our vision..!!

courtesy:Miss.Anitha's Mail

A Good Attitude Is Empowering

"The only disability in life is a bad attitude." – Scott Hamilton
Attitude is so important. It is probably the most important thing worth talking about in all the self - help material you will come across. Why; because attitude controls your mind which controlseverything. It's what makes the difference between a good athlete and a poor one; a successful entrepreneur or a failure; a great artist/musician and a poor one. Hamilton, our author today was no stranger to disability; he was two years old when he contracted a mysterious illness that caused him to stop growing. He was misdiagnosed as having cystic fibrosis and was told by doctors at one point that he had 6 months to live. Diet and exercise cured the problem though Hamilton achieved only a height of 5 feet 2 inches in his life-time. He didn't allow disability to stop him. In 1981 '82 and '83 Scott Hamilton won the gold medal in the World Figure Skating Championships, and won the gold medal at the 1984 Winter Olympics.

But Hamilton is not the only example of men and women overcoming great obstacles in their lives. There is Helen Keller, blind and deaf from a very young age; President Abraham Lincoln who rose from being a bare foot poor boy from Missouri, to becoming a self taught layer who eventually became our 16th President of the United States. The list goes on and on of people defeating the odds against them armed with simply a good attitude. A bad attitude can stop any man or woman's dream.

What is the secret to attaining the great attitude we talk so much about? Art Link letter said it this way: "Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out." That i s the magic formula and nothing more or less.
President Franklin D. Roosevelt campaigned from a wheel chair and won the Presidential election
in 1933. He served an unprecedented 4 terms in office from 1933-1945 serving as a handicapped
person serving through some of the toughest times our country has ever seem seen including the
great depression and the 2nd world war.

Hamilton is right when he says the only disability is a bad attitude. A bad attitude can prevent you from getting a job by acting poorly on a job interview, it can break up marriages and drive a person to use street drugs or become chemically Dependant. A bad attitude can keep a beaten house-wife to stay with her brutal husband till he finally beats her to death; it can keep us all imprisoned to our own bonds of self-limitation if we allow it. It makes us all make bad choices in life which leads to nowhere and can make us penniless pawns of society. Having a bad attitude has a bad ending in store for all who choose that road of self indulgence and self pity which is where a bad attitude always leads in the end.

It is best to make the best of your life, what ever the cards are that you were dealt, and put a smile on your face and brave the day, each and every new day. Greet it with a good attitude and watch the difference it makes. Someone once said life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you deal with it. That is why having a good attitude is so important. Having a good attitude empowers you and when you are empowered you can empower others you meet. Today give it a try and put on that mask of a good attitude. Yes that’s right, sometimes you will have to fake it till you make but in the long run you will see that having a good attitude will get easier and easier until is comes as second nature to you. Today be empowered and decide to face your day with a good attitude!

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Self Improvement - SIX STEPS ULTIMATE SUCCESS FORMULA

In fact, it is the simplest and most basic formula of success.

WHY NOT TAKE THIS TIME - PROVEN, SIMPLE FORMULA AND APPLY IT TO LIFE?
- Decide. What exactly you want to do.

- Make a step-by-step plan.

- Start working on your plan!

- Review your results.

- Be Flexible. Change actions if needed.

- Stay focused.


1. Take Decision - What exactly/specifically you want? What exactly/specifically you want to do?
Where exactly you want to go? Write down on a sheet of paper freely without thinking about how you're going to get these things. When you write down your goals you are sending a powerful command to your subconscious mind to get moving on achieving these goals. Simply by writing down your goals, you can increase your chance of success by 80%.

2. Plan your work - Once you have set your goal, you need a step-by-step plan to achieve it. Plan is a detailed scheme; program, or method worked out beforehand to accomplish of an objective.
When you plan something - you have a clear vision/you know exactly what and how to do. If you
want to have a successful life - get a plan together. Without proper planning doing something is like a boat without rudders floating aimlessly in a raging sea".

3. Start working on your step-by-step plan immediately – There's no better time to start than NOW. Don��t wait for a raise, or until the kids get older or the weather is better. Start moving; take a step toward your destination. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step

4. Monitor your progress - Use your senses to recognize the kinds of results you are getting from
your actions. Note quickly if you are going closer to your goals or far away. Just like helmsman
you must remain constantly alert, readjust your behavior and recalibrate your action to make sure you are going where you want to go.

5. Be Flexible - Change actions if needed. If your efforts are not taking you closer to your goal,
change your course, change your actions and keep adapting till success. Just like helmsman
readjusting his ship's direction as it moves in wrong direction.

6. Stay Focused on your target - How denting the situations are, never quit your goal. Study ants. If they're headed somewhere and you block their way, try to stop them; they'll look for another way. They'll climb over, they'll climb under, and they will climb around. They never quit their target; they keep looking for another way.

REMEMBER,

*WINNERS NEVER QUIT, AND QUITTER NEVER WINS*

You can't always change your situation, but you can always change your attitude-Larry Hargreaves

Indomitable Spirit- Search a real powers in you…! You CAN…!

"We are responsible for what we are, and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves. If what we are now has been the result of our own past actions,it certainly follows that whatever we wish to be in future can be produced by our present actions; so we have to know how to act. “-- Swami Vivekananda
"My name should not be made prominent.
It is my ideas that I want to be realized"Let us do that and almighty will bless our societies It means that whatever may be the depth of the river or lake or pond, whatever may be the condition of the water, the Lilly flower always comes out and blossoms. Similarly, if there is a definite determination to achieve a goal, even against insurmountable problems, he or she will succeed.

The second component is the ability to overcome all hurdles coming in the way of mission accomplishment. Many of us have gone through large programme and projects. We would have experienced that success is not in sight and there are many hurdles. The same poet reminds us at this point of time through another couplet:It means successful leaders can never be defeated by problems. They become master of the situation and defeat the problems. I consider these two kurals characterize the indomitable spirit. I am sure all of you will rise to the occasion and develop leaders enlightened citizens. Thought (dream) gives vision, Vision gives thoughts and thought leads to actions.

There are two kinds of people in the world: those who make excuses and those who get results. An excuse person will find any excuse for why a job was not done, and a results person will find any reason why it can be done. Be a creator, not a reactor.
BE A CREATOR…!
Never compromise to other people's tendencies to be negative or pessimistic.... because
they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you -- the ones you have in
your heart!

Courtesy: Dr.A.P.J.Kalam speech extracted from Press information bureau